Monday, June 8, 2009
Eureka Moment #4
I hope this makes some of you laugh the way i did. Last friday i was out to lunch with 5 other employees, 3 woman and 2 men. When it came time to order everyone gave the waiter their choice and we went on with out conversation waiting for out food. When the waiter brought out the food everyone looked at eachothers food to see what other people had ordered. One of my fellow woman coworkers had ordered a Ruben Sandwich on Rye that had a special sauce, big pieces of tomato and some other random greens. I immediatly thought wow that looks really good i should have ordered that but right when i was about to comment on her sadwhich one of the guys said your not really going to eat that are you, i mean its huge and looks really tough and messy, it looks like a man sandwich. At first we were all a little taken back but then we began to realize that he honestly thought that there are foods that a woman should not eat. He honestly thought that only a man should be eating such a big messy sandwich. Since when are there rules on what woman can and cannot eat? We asked him why he would think that a woman couldnt eat a sandwhich like that and the only answer he gave was "a woman shouldnt eat a sadwich like that for the same reason a man shouldnt eat a salad in public." I am still a little taken back and concerned that he honestly believes there are foods that are suited only for men and some that are suited only for woman. Since when can a person not eat whatever they want? I didnt know there were rules for this and then even at that why is assumed that messy sandwich is a mans foor and salad is a womans? Im confused!
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Tiffany,
ReplyDeleteYour post was interesting to me because for some reason, I completely understand this guy's references. I don't agree with them, of course, but I can see why he thinks that.
First though, you didn't say how old this guy is, nor did you mention if he was "in shape" and what his background is. There are definitely generational differences in the way women and men think. If he's in shape, men find it interesting that a woman can "pack it away." As for the messiness of the sandwich, sometimes men think that women should be "dainty" and eat "dainty foods." Let's face it, girls, when we go on a date, are we really eating an entire pizza (like we can do at home in our sweats watching Grey's Anatomy) - could I sound more sexist? But it's sort of true - if we're interested in someone, we really don't want them to see us "pig out." But if we aren't interested in them "like that," then who cares?
I used to own a bookstore and I remember hearing people categorize books as "guy" books and "women's lit." Guy books were Tom Clancy books, military fiction and women's lit or Chick Lit was Bridget Jones' Diary. And somehow, I understood that.
Taryn
Good point about me not mentioning his shape and age i didnt think to add that in! I do see what you are saying about how his shape can change the way he views things as well. I would never order anything that was messy on a date so i also understand how situations can change the way we order as well!
ReplyDeleteOMG! This did make me laugh. My boyfriend and I were talking about our first date recently and he said one thing he liked about me at that moment was that I didn't order a salad. He thought I must be really confident and comfortable with myself to order the big ol' steak and potatoes I ate. He was the one who actually ordered a salad! I have heard comments like these from men, and women but I say, eat what you like not what "society" dictates.
ReplyDeleteThis did make me laugh! After a stressful week, it was well deserved. There are certain foods that might take away the sexiness in a woman when you see her eating it. A salad is considered woman food because it is not messy and it also helps with weight control. These are the restrictions society has placed on the genders and we live by them. Well I don't but many do. A man ordering a salad on a date would look strange to me. I eat like 3 men and love it! Food was made for ALL human beings to eat, and the day I put down a slab of ribs because my partner gives me the "eye" is the day I would have lost the very essence of me. It is our duty to defy norms and stereotypes set forth by society. Long live the women who know how to order REAL food when they go out to eat because they have REAL stomachs.
ReplyDeleteOoohhhh man... Interesting. What'd be even MORE interesting is if this guy also believes that women should prepare the food as well, considering they can only "eat" certain foods.
ReplyDeletePersonally, I think it's frustrating when men think women should only eat salads and drink water with lemon. Especially since I am a women who likes good food! lol, seriously though, that goes along with the whole image of women. Women are "Supposed" to be thin, in good shape, eat salads, change diapers, clean dishes, etc.
I realize that a lot of these thoughts and views root from our society, but it makes me wonder, did this man grow up with any sisters? Female cousins? What was his mother like? What was his relationship like between his mother and father? I think family and surroundings have a great influence as well.